Sunday, October 16, 2016


This photo of a man in Time Magazine stopped me, stunned me, repelled me.
It seemed wrong, felt wrong, haunted me, and continues to bother me.

The article is about a man, who was born as a female, became a male with medical help but no surgery, and was artificially inseminated. Specific, intimate details about this are in the magazine story by Jessi Hempel, titled: "My brother Evan was born female. He came out as transgender 16 years ago but never stopped wanting to have a baby. This spring he gave birth to his first child.

Even as I read the article, I was distracted -- stuck on finding out why the photo repelled me.

"Abnormal" -- that was the word on the tip of my tongue. It got me wondering if "abnormal" is the same kind of thought that pops into people's minds when they react to other races, religions -- to the lesbian, gay, bi-sexual,  transsexual LGBTers.

How can I exorcise, or change, or re-focus what I think of as "normal?" Golly -- my repulsion, my reaction to the photo is what growing up and living in today's world has drilled into my mind.

I went googling around on my computer for other opinions. Here are the links. On Defense of Reason, I read how religion plays a major role in what we believe and accept as good, bad, or wrong. I looked at page called Live Science that explained how the status quo is a moral codebook -- a way to decipher good from bad and right from wrong -- that told us that the existence of a behavior does not mean it is good -- slavery and child labor, for example, are still popular in some parts of the world, though neither is right or good. On Bertrand Russell "Scientific Method,"  a subject I'd studied years ago, I learned again:  First, observe the significant facts; second, arrive at a hypothesis which would account for these facts; third, deduce the consequences of this hypothesis.

I reopened the magazine and studied the other pictures the article provided, and re-read Jessi Hempel's last few paragraphs.

"...The Obama Administration declared that all public schools must treat students equally regardless of their gender identity ... There's a backlash against the "battle of the bathroom" -- many states are now suing the Obama Administration. Violence directed at transgender people is up 62% from what it was in 2015. In June, we had the mass murder an Orlando nightclub, the deadliest incident of violence against LGBT people in U.S. history. More than likely, pregnancies like Evan's, and the many that are likely to follow, are surely going to stretch our cultural perceptions of gender norms even further ..." 

So all I can do is observe, and live 
with open eyes in a world 
that is changing. 

And adjust to the changes.

And see the tenderness, enjoy the look of a baby and its loving parent. 

And yes -- oh my yes -- love is there, and love is lovely to observe and feel.

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