But if he/she is poorly, or wrongly dressed? If you notice crumbs on the person's lapel, or maybe a faint odor? Even too much perfume makes you uneasy -- not suspicious, but you are NOT comfortable. Do you become their friend?
There is a firm of lawyers that advertises quite frequently on television. While a recorded voice assures you that the firm is the best and their clients win millions, we see the lawyers -- a pleasant middle-aged lady, a fatherly man, then, a grinning guy, who looks up from his desk with a knowing, off-puttingly bemused smile. Each time I think "HE'S A CROOK!" Would I become a client? No!
I picked out these faces for a Who Can You Trust test.
![](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Sw8hSlwe0Fo/TYfHogIrx2I/AAAAAAAAEzA/3CDEoEiKVc8/s200/Char.jpg)
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But what about her, with her hands on her hips laughing? Chelsea Handler is her name. She's an up-and-coming star with a show -- she teases her guests, and sometimes makes outrageous, almost-but-not-quite crude remarks, but her smile, the tilt of her head is ... pleasantly saucy. We like her. That's undoubtedly why she's an up-and-comer, who is being touted in Newsweek Magazine.
I found these three faces in an advertisement for an online school.
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There's something about him that suggests, to me, that he is very restless.
![](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-hgK_FHVxo04/TYfIFewVKFI/AAAAAAAAEzY/_ILIkaEUM-0/s200/Prissy%2Bconfident.jpg)
Her posture implies that she's not sure of herself -- is she pretending to know things that she doesn't really know? And her confident expression -- is it somehow slightly fake? Why do I think she's prissy? Her hands? It's as if she's nervously hiding behind them,
What about this lady on the right? I happened to notice that she's
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I think you knows lots of things almost immediately when you meet someone, or see their picture.
Okay, don't judge a book by its cover -- but pay attention to what you're thinking -- don't ignore the intuitions that flicker across your mind. They can help you connect with someone who can really be a help to you. They can help you NOT attach yourself to a new friend, counselor, employee, doctor, lawyer, accountant, or housekeeper -- a person who is sending you a message that he/she and you aren't going to really get along very well.
Trust yourself. Listen to the advice you give yourself.