Wednesday, January 31, 2018


All the women pictured in this issue, called "THE SILENCE BREAKERS," have been praised for telling how and when they were abused by powerful men.

Yes, they are brave. It took courage to reveal the details -- sexual specifics of what was done to them. And now there are shocking, detailed revelations from more than 100 young girls who were molested, abused by the former USA gymnastics team doctor, and sports physician for Michigan State University.

We're into the first phase of a revolution that may change the way children are brought up, and will affect our culture. But there is an element in what happened to the women on the cover of Time Magazine, the MSU gymnasts, as well as the Me Too women all in white at the Grammys, that is not being mentioned.

Being a woman, I know how I was taught from day one of my life to be female, be like my mother,  her mother, grandma and all the mothers before her -- to be sugar and spice and everything nice. To be sweet, charming, cute, sexy-seductive-lovable, in behavior, clothes, language -- in all the ways a baby, little girl, young lady, grownup lady, woman should be whatever she does, whatever career she chooses. It relates to why the gymnasts at Michigan State University didn't tell about the abuse for many years.

Your femininity helps get you to the next level and next -- get more help, more attention from the coach and other experts -- it gets you into meetings with powerfully important men and women who can help you be more successful. The women, and young girls who have been abused got themselves into a situation with an abuser because they needed something from the abuser.

And the abusers, the men, even MSU's sports physician, who've been taught, trained, conditioned by our culture from infancy as snips and snails, and puppy dog tails, into needing to do what they did -- that is not being mentioned either.

Hopefully, the thousands of things that shape us -- especially movies, television, music, and commerce-related ads -- what "Victoria's Secrets" sells us, what we buy, love to wear, and try to be -- will change.

It's starting to happen. It could change how males and females need to behave if we change the sugar and spice aspects of femininity, the puppy dog elements of masculinity, and become truthful, straight forward in pursuing our dreams, needs, and goals.

I showed this to my husband. He said, "Don't publish this, A lot of people are going to be offended by this."  If you're offended, I'm sorry but its what I perceive as the truth.