LETTING GO...

Do you like this picture?

This picture fits what's on my mind. The kite you were flying is off on its own, going somewhere and nowhere.

Whoever you are, no matter what you do, (be it a job, or if you are retired), I know there are times when you're not sure where you're heading. An "itis" hits you -- a stuckness -- a sadness -- you can't rev yourself up to do what you ordinarily do to keep things rolling along.

Hey, my husband who's a legendary actor gets it. Our son who's an established actor in Los Angeles gets it. In between jobs, actors tend to think they will never work again and picture themselves in other professions, even as they're waiting for the phone to ring with the next audition.

I get a big itis sometimes. After a blog I publish gets a big response, I look at my list of ideas to work on next and nothing interests me. I think about other careers that I've tried that I didn't stick with -- like teaching, like acting. Sometimes, as a few days pass, I continue to feel out of ideas and sad because there's nothing to write about.

I think it's the child in us -- the dreams, hopes, the things we wanted, envisioned a long time ago. I deal with this, having committed myself at age five, to be a dancer, till death do me part. I am no longer a dancer, I am a writer, as well as a wife and mother.

I've learned that what we accumulate over the years -- experiences, memories, mementos, as well as clothes -- have to be winnowed down every so often to fit the current you. You need to discard what doesn't fit -- pack it away, or give it away. It haunts you. You'll miss what's gone, but missing things inspires you, sooner or later, to accrue other things, and go on with your life.

You cannot erase child dreams, hopes, visions, of success, money, fame, glory -- they're in your blood, in your skin, muscles, and bones -- your dreams are you -- you are your dreams.

If you've got an itis, go for a hike, see a film, buy something-or-other that you have to learn -- and let it distract you for a day or two while you look around.

Sooner or later you will see something interesting. Sooner or later your mope becomes a rope to hang onto that's pulling you, or you're pulling it and going somewhere.

(VIDEO) OUR SUPER GREAT MAID

Emily wants to talk about Agnes. It's an iffy subject that makes John uncomfortable since Agnes is Cullum, their uncomplaining, utterly devoted maid who does most all of  the clean up chores.

The Cullum's agree -- Agnes, a southern mammy maid, is incorrect politically, but Agnes-John never complains, works for no pay. and gets them both laughing when it's time to take care of the seriously nasty jobs that have to be done once in a while.

LOVING COUPLES

Famous people -- very well-known couples in love ...

The pictures below will probably remind you of what these couples meant to us, and the days when they were in the news.

Former King Edward VIII and Wallis Simpson.

Lauren Bacall and Humphrey Bogart.


Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith.


Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward.


Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy.


Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.

Ronald Reagan and Nancy Davis Reagan.

Bill Clinton and Hillary Rodham Clinton.


John Lennon and Yoko Ono.

Christopher Reeve and his wife Dana Reeve.



They're gone, some of them -- but not forgotten.